“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde
We often spend our lives looking for someone who can complete us and in the process, we don’t realize we are creating and living with a void within us. How can two empty individuals, even if they meet, can build a bond that lasts? The equation of life doesn’t work that way. Love is all about companionship, trust and being together in thick and thins. We all know, it requires an effort much more than we can imagine. This strength cannot come from emptiness, it originates from something extremely powerful like love. So, before you extend your love to someone else make sure you are full of it. Here are the ways to fall in love with the most amazing person-You!
Maintain a journal
We all have a to-do list that we wish to accomplish, but what about the stuff that we have already accomplished? So, starting today start a journal, write your goals, your journeys, and all small little hiccups on your way to achievement. Once you have that in writing, you know what exactly have you achieved and how much you have grown in the process. It will always be a feel-good factor for you.
Most often than not we take ourselves for granted. We don’t realize our worth and in the long run, we have numerous self-doubts that obstruct us from getting ahead in life. So, talk to someone who loves you: your parents, siblings, spouse, friend or your kids and write down how they describe you, qualities they like and dislike about you.
This exercise will allow you to focus on your good points, instead of dismissing them or taking them for granted. It will also help you realize how much there is in you to love.
If There’s Something You Don’t Like About Yourself, Change It
There are a lot of things that you don’t like about your country, people around you, your boss, teacher or anyone else. But the fact is, you can’t do much about it. But, there is one person who can be exactly like you want it to be and that is you. So, get rid of any habits that bog you down and develop new and positive habits that you admire in others or wish to see in yourself.
Spend some time alone with yourself, not closed inside a room but out in the woods and wild. Okay fine, malls and spas are great too. Just relax, have a date with yourself. Read your favorite book and order your favorite food in the restaurant and have your ‘me’ time, or take yourself to a movie date or book a spa treatment or enroll yourself in the dance class. Just do whatever makes you smile.
Volunteer for a cause, help someone in need. Most of the time it doesn’t require money, all you need is genuine concern and willingness to help someone. You also do not have to go outside your home, there is a lot you can do around yourself. Like helping the old lady cross the road, seeing someone who is hospitalized with flowers and smile, helping your mother or wife in her daily chores, just anything. This little act of kindness goes a long way in boosting your morale.
Whatever you choose to do, the most important step to falling in love with yourself is learning to appreciate and accept yourself. As Wayne Dyer said, “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” But loving yourself does not mean spending your time in solitude. It means loving your company and loving yourself and accepting your limitations and may be working on it too.