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I Roar, I Dance, I Rule!

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We are all entitled to celebrate who we are every single day I believe. But I also strongly advocate going over the top and all guns blazing every women’s day. Now, there are many who think that there is too much going on already in and around women’s life. Few of the women are already too in your face with their defiance towards shaving their legs & armpits and their outright refusal to wear bras; why give a special day to these feminazis who have already made our lives uncomfortable with their demand for equality. Honestly, I think we society as a whole should be uncomfortable when we observe the kind of hard struggles women go through all for mere ‘Equality’. Last year was fairly good in this area I must say. Few of our female counterparts were the centre of attraction for their accomplishments and some others were brave enough to stand up against shamers. These instances made us all go gaga and crazy proud of fellow females:
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Jeniffer Aniston’s letter on Body shaming:

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The girl has clearly paid her dues of being a celebrity almost all her life. Ever since she was part of a famous marriage and equally infamous divorce. One innocent outing on a beach with current husband got the shutterbugs all riled up. The curve of her tummy was on a trial all of a sudden. Her diet, exercise routine and hypothetical pregnancy at her age, all was questioned and frowned upon. She finally broke her silence and ended rumors of pregnancy and setting body shamers straight all at the same time. Her stand was clear; Motherhood is only a part of being a woman and being or not being a mom is her decision alone and her body is her body alone. If only we all care about our own tummy and curves, the world would become a prettier place.
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Emma Watson’s take on Beauty and the Beast:

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Belle has always been smarter than the rest of her Disney princess counterpart. When Emma Watson was approached to play the part, she decided to take the character of Belle on a different level altogether. Watson made Belle wear pants and not dresses; she made Belle ride a horse and portrayed her as a scientist and not a vain dreamer. Prima facie the changes do not appear to be revolutionary but when you think about the kind of effect fairy tales have on children, it is a huge step forward. Princesses are capable of doing much more than dozing off, remaining stuck in household chores, singing to birds and forever waiting for a Prince Charming. This Belle got it all; Beauty, Brains and the Beast.

Dancing & Skateboarding Burqa clad Saudi Women:

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After I first saw the video and was happily impressed, I decided to look up for translation of lyrics of the song to which these amazing women were dancing. Part of the song literally translated to:

“May all men be erased as they’ve given us mental illness” and
“Every single one of them has a devil inside them”

Now I myself have had my share of mental illness at the hand of men and am often accused of indulging in bitter diatribe targeted on men; the crime I honestly confess to and enjoy at the same time. But this instance of Burqa clad dancing women is the kind of courage we fortunate enough to live in comparatively liberal society can only dream of possessing. In a country where driving for women is a criminal offence, Skateboard under my Burqa is nothing less than a revolution. Take a bow my dancing, skateboarding, basket ball playing and burqa wearing queens.

Sania Mirza’s take on Baby Pressure:

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This girl deserves a collective Thank You from all the above 30 childless women of India. When a leading news anchor asked her, like an overly concerned distant relative “ when are you planning to settle down” (as in make babies); Sania literally tore the man apart with her counter question of How many grand slam titles does it take for a woman to tell the world that she is finally “Settled Down”. If only people stay out of other people’s uterus; the world would be so much better and so much fairer.

Ruling (almost) the Whole world:

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So close and yet so far! When Hilary Clinton stood for the most powerful office in the world, I thought the world would finally be better and kinder place for us. Unfortunately, she lost out to a man who is the embodiment of racism and sexism combined. Although she lost, but it was great to see her go this far and stand up to all the filth thrown towards her. Few of the remaining parts of the world have been kinder and that is also great. Theresa May is all draped up in a Sari and dons leopard print kitten heels and rules the UK, it is difficult to imagine Germany and even European Union without Angela Merkel and Mother Teresa is now Saint Teresa. All these victories are no fewer reasons to celebrate.

For a distant future, I wish there would come a day when there would be normalcy surrounding womanhood. When I talk about normalcy; I mean there should neither be hatred nor bling surrounding woman. Such normalcy is the ultimate objective for most of us women. A time should come when there is no misogyny; that will be the time when no celebration shall be needed. As long as there are people who keep telling women what to shave, what to show and what to wear; we will need women who burn their bras in full public view.

In order to balance out suppression, Celebration is needed, the kind of celebration which is in form of a loud roar, in our face and dances on a skateboard.

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So, what’s your Superpower?

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Did you ever feel jealous of these heroes who have been shoved down our throats all through our lives? These heroes who could fly, fight, be invisible, resemble a creepy animal and wear tacky outfits; often all at the same time. I always wished to have a Superpower. I am going to be honest, I  never was that noble. Saving the world was way down on my priority list, attention from people and weird outfits was what attracted me. As I grew up I realized it is not a very good idea to be a superhero. Because if I wanted to have a chance to survive in this world; I had to merge against the wall, remain lost in a crowd and wear my underwear under my pants! Clearly, all these traits for survival as recommend by the world are anti-superhero.

This world is a weird place, it craves for villains more than heroes. Villains make life easier you see. We can dump our failures, incompetence, insecurities and our cowardice on villains and they happily bear this burden. Heroes on the other hand are made a target because they force us out of our comfort zone, choosing good is hard you know. So this  world decided to neglect heroes to the extent of worthlessness and responsibility fell upon the few of us old school pupils to find lost superheroes. I found one such superhero in myself. Now, I may not have the powers to fly or throw cobweb from my wrist but my set of superpowers are also pretty cool. I realized as I worked on my powers that some superpowers are inbuilt, some are transmitted and for some you have to work your ass off.

Will you people believe if I tell you that once I had this ability (not calling it Superpower) to completely deny any problem to an extent that it vanished. Of course the same problem did rise back much later with much more power to bite me. I spent a lot of time, money and energy in therapy but only thing that helped me deal with my trauma was total denial. I would have continued to live on this denial mode had these words of the greatest mind of our generation (Tyrion Lannister) not sting me like some radioactive bug,

“Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like an armor and it can never be used to hurt you”.

I knew he was talking directly to me when he said it. I am proud to say that now I have the ability to acknowledge my problems, look them in the eye, work upon them and ask for help if needed, to overcome them. This, my friend, is nothing less than a superpower when you consider that I was once the queen of denial land and more so when you see delirious souls around you, drifting through their lives like zombies, without knowing what’s going on.

Do you remember that dream where you are falling and falling and you clearly remember the fear of hitting the ground; that ground never comes because it is a dream. Well! I have lived that dream in reality. In dreams, the anxiety of hitting the ground goes away in a few seconds, in reality, that phase of fear lasted for 2 years.  For 2 years, I kept waiting that my head would hit the ground and with that my fear will also go away. This brings me to the second superpower; getting back up after falling down.

There has never been a superhero who claimed not to have fallen. Batman’s whole world just blew up right on his face when his parents were shot before his eyes. Spiderman grew up without parents and saw people he loved killed before him. Superman’s entire planet vanished one fine day, on top of it he faced the trauma of having to wear undies over pants. It doesn’t mean that without a trauma you can not be a hero, all am saying is looking beyond a trauma is a great superpower.

When I was going through my trauma, every time anybody came to me and told me that everything happens for a reason, I should be happy irrespective of my circumstances, I resisted my urge to punch that person. Some really awful things happen to some really nice people and it is insensitive to ask them to look for a reason in these awful things. In such circumstances when you are grieving the loss of life, love or health and in spite of that you are able to identify and acknowledge your problems and are able to get back up; it is enough for now. Being able to put one foot before another when the whole world came crashing down on your head is the kind of power even superheroes are envious of.

Grab hold of your superpowers people, tie them around your neck like a cape and go fly right over the world which once thought you are too weak to even walk!

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Decision fatigue and the science behind good and bad decisions.

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Have you wondered why sometimes even the smallest decisions can seem to be such a big deal? We all go through those nights when deciding over what food to order or which movie to watch takes so long that it kills the need to do so.

 

This age of abundance of options means that we need to make decisions all the time.

The problem is, not all choices are created equal. Endless choices are taking a toll. Millennials are called the Peter Pan generation because of our inability or perhaps unwillingness to grow up. We’re making commitments to careers, to partners and to children later in life than any other generation thus far. Decision fatigue helps explain why ordinarily sensible people get angry at colleagues and families, splurge on clothes, buy junk food at the supermarket and can’t resist the dealer’s offer to rustproof their new car. No matter how rational and high-minded you try to be, you can’t make decision after decision without paying a biological price. It’s different from ordinary physical fatigue — you’re not consciously aware of being tired — but you’re low on mental energy. The more choices you make throughout the day, the harder each one becomes for your brain, and eventually it looks for shortcuts, usually in either of two very different ways. One shortcut is to become reckless: to act impulsively instead of expending the energy to first think through the consequences. (Sure, tweet that photo! What could go wrong?) The other shortcut is the ultimate energy saver: do nothing. Instead of agonizing over decisions, avoid any choice. Ducking a decision often creates bigger problems in the long run, but for the moment, it eases the mental strain.

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Do You Suffer from Decision Fatigue?

Decision fatigue happens every day in your life as well. It is closely related to a phenomenon called ego depletion, which essentially shows that if you have to force yourself to complete an unpleasant task (or to keep from engaging in a pleasurable activity), you will be less able to exert self-control for the next hurdle. If you have a particularly decision-heavy day at work, then you come home feeling drained. You might want to go to the gym and workout, but your brain would rather default to the easy decision: sit on the couch. That’s decision fatigue.The same thing is true if you find it hard to muster up the willpower to work on your side business at night or to cook a healthy meal for dinner.

And while decision fatigue is something that we all deal with, there are a few ways that you can organize your life and design your day to master your willpower.

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What you can do about it

Minimize choices

Just like Mark Zuckerberg, you can decide to cut your options so you can minimize the amount of decisions you have to take daily. Getting rid of objects is a great way to start, as well as planning your meals in advance or sticking to a diet. Routines and habits are another great way to make sure that there is no choice involved, and you let the automation do the work. This is why I like to go to the gym at the same time every day.

Move important things early in the day

Timing is everything. If you want to make the most out of your day, make sure to put your priority first, when making good choices is easier. This is why the morning is the best time to invest in yourself.

Train your willpower

Once our self-control has depleted, we tend to go for our default setting. So make sure your default setting isn’t a negative one. You can also train your willpower incrementally, and by exposing yourself to inspiring models that support you and show you the next level.

Advance your decisions

Choose your outfit the evening before. Get your running gear at the bottom of your bed before going to sleep. This way, you can move menial decisions to the end of the day, and save tomorrow’s full tank for what really makes a difference.

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The Bottom Line

Willpower isn’t something you have or something you lack. It rises and falls. And while it’s impossible to maximize your willpower for every moment of every day, it is possible to make a few changes to your day and your routine so that you can get the most of your decisions and make consistent progress on the things that are important to you.

 

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The Read Again List : Food for Soul

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Cliches are cliches for a reason and that reason being they are mostly true. I am gonna take liberty and throw one such cliche at you of Books being a person’s Best friend. So if you are anybody or anything like me who tries to find answers to most of the complexities of life in books or if you feel a book could jerk start your latent lazy life, here is a list of books you could read or re-read :

The Fountainhead: I can not explain the kind of effect this book had on me. I can only hope it has the same effect on you. I re-read this masterpiece by Ayn Rand every time I feel the world is all ganged up against me pointing fingers at me for doing something solely for my benefit. I know this mindset of mine of being affected by other’s opinion is in total contrast of what Rand is trying to accomplish through this book but i can not help it. I am going to read this book no matter how many times it takes for me to walk alone for what I feel is right irrespective of what other people think about me or want me to do.

Gone with the wind: Well !!! There are many reasons I am single and often I blame Margaret Mitchell among various other things. If she did not create Rhett Butler, I would not be judging other men with that benchmark on my mind. I am glad in a way though, I would rather be dead than settle down for a mediocre guy (again). But she created Rhett and I fell in love and one more cliche your way, fever of first true love happens only once, even if it is with a fictional character. I have used “Frankly my dear I do not give a damn” a lot and on a lot of people and almost always whilst feeling totally opposite. I am going to continue to use this in future as well; hopefully meaning it someday.

Anna Karenina: How far can a woman go for love? What all is she capable of giving up for a man she loves? Pride, reputation, family, child and even life itself; attracting scorn and ridicule of society in return. This book invariably haunts me every time I take a train journey (standing before a speeding train is a depressing way to die). Is one man’s love good enough reason to give up on life? I wish it had a different ending, somehow I never could accept the macabre climax. But who can question the master himself? I do re-read it though, it makes me feel a little stronger because I decided to live.

The Kite Runner: This work by Khalid Hosseni plays on all the strings of your heart at once. Probably one of the best ones when it comes to celebrating friendship amidst all the guilt and shame and what ifs and what if nots. It is so much that a human heart is capable of achieving with a little love and hope, irrespective of how turbulent the times are. If you have just one person who can say to you “ For you a thousand times over” it’s more than you can ask for. Whenever I feel the need for someone else to say that to me, I turn though the pages of this book.

Never let me go: What if the very purpose of your life is to give up your life so others may live? How would you live if you knew this? Would you fall in love, knowing all the while that it is just a matter of time? But isn’t it true for all of us? It is just a matter of time right; still we live and laugh and love. This book opened up my heart and somehow makes me believe in love in spite of the trust issues I have and irrespective of futility of live.

I do hope you have real people around you who can make you fall in love, who can stir your soul and who make you feel that world is filled with Sunshine in spite of on and off darkness. But till the time you find and collect such people; you can anytime turn to your book BFFs and sometimes even after you find such people, these BFFs will always be there for you just in case you decide to look out for them. Do not forget to share your list of BFFs you turn to.

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Save yourself from Imposter Syndrome

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“I felt like there had been some mistake, that I wasn’t smart enough to be in this company, and that every time I opened my mouth I would have to prove that I wasn’t just a dumb actress.”- Natalie Portman in her Harvard Commencement Speech.

“Sometimes I wake up in the morning before going off to a shoot, and I think, I can’t do this.  I’m a fraud.” – Kate Winslett

“I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.” – Maya Angelou

“You think, “Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? And I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?” – Meryl Streep

“When I was younger, I just did it. I just acted. It was just there. So now when I receive recognition for my acting, I feel incredibly uncomfortable. I tend to turn in on myself. I feel like an impostor. It was just something I did.” – Emma Watson

‘Even though I had sold 70 million albums, there I was feeling like “I’m no good at this.” – Jennifer Lopez

The above admissions of suffering Imposter syndrome, coming from one of the most eminent women our time has known, are not the only ones. The list is never ending. In fact, Imposter syndrome is quite common and according to research over 70% of people have experienced it at one time or the other in their lives. Imposter syndrome is feeling inadequate—even when the opposite is true. Believe it or not, people who are very successful in life experience it the most. They typically feel they don’t deserve their achievements or successes. It is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to see their own accomplishments, dismissing them as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. And this does not just concern the celebrities but is something anyone can undergo. Both men and women can suffer from what psychologists have dubbed the Impostor Syndrome, however, it’s something women struggle with more often and more openly. The worse is not knowing that such a phenomenon exists and constantly live under this fear of getting caught.

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Two American psychologists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, gave it a name in 1978: the impostor syndrome. They described it as a feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” While these people “are highly motivated to achieve,” they also “live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.” Having laid out the various ways in which one can be experiencing this syndrome it is also important to understand why we feel this way. It is believed that a part of the impostor syndrome comes from a natural sense of humility about our work. That’s healthy, but it can easily cross the line into paralyzing fear. When we have a skill or talent that has come naturally we tend to discount its value.

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And Why is that? Well, we often hesitate to believe that what’s natural, maybe even easy for us, can offer any value to the world. In fact, the very act of being really good at something can lead us to discount its value. But after spending a lot of time fine-tuning our ability, isn’t it sort of the point for our skill to look and feel natural? So how to make this feeling go away? There are two things to bear in mind. The first is that some measure of doubt is healthy, manifesting as what we’d typically refer to as diligence or rigour. Second is that someone’s coping strategy for dealing with impostor syndrome is a very specific solution, one that’s particular to their circumstances. Having said that, here are a few takeaways’ that are universal and might help in some way or the other.

Give yourself an appraisal

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This is particularly useful if you’re self-employed. When there isn’t anyone to give you positive feedback, you need to be the one to supply it. List any achievements you’re proud of. What are your skills? What could you talk about for hours? Chances are, you’re better than the vast majority of people at these things.

Remember that awareness is a good thing

The sheer fact that you’re critical about your abilities is a sign that you care. A key ingredient to mastering anything is to care enough about it that you want to improve. If the greats felt imposter syndrome (and they did) you can put yourself on the same tumultuous path to mastery.

Make a “feel good” file

This is a file — physical or digital — where you save all the positive testimonials, kind words, praise and thanks that you receive. Every time you need a bit of a confidence boost, remind yourself of your greatness by flicking through this file.

Spend time with those who lift you up

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While it’s easy to get absorbed into our own bubble when dealing with a dip in confidence, one of the best things we can do is surround ourselves with others who will pull us out of our slump. Carla Busazi, former editor-in-chief of the Huffington Post UK, recommends a glass of wine or a lunch with someone who can reassure you that are worthy, brilliant, and fully deserving of your success. Conversely, take a step back from those who make you feel inadequate. Although it may not be intentional, some people will only remind us of our flaws and ultimately contribute to our lack of confidence.

Keep a journal

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Every day make a note of one thing you achieved or felt good about that day. Some use daily affirmations to train their brain to feel more confident, but I recommend starting with achievements; they are more concrete and measurable. The practice of writing down these accomplishments ultimately will increase self-confidence and belief in your abilities. Whatever you do, don’t let imposter syndrome or lack of confidence hold you back.

All of this leads to the final and most important step: learning how to live with the impostor syndrome. While the above techniques may or may not help you, acknowledging and embracing your fear is definitely the starting point.

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No Carry-ons Next Year. Please!

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That magical time of the year is upon us again!! That time when we start looking forward to 365 new opportunities to make the wrongs rights, when the whole world appears to be on our platters and Sun shines brighter (metaphorically!). Yes, that time of the year when we start counting down for the new year, when we hope to create a better tomorrow for ourselves. But in order to create a better tomorrow, first and foremost we need to leave behind Yesterdays. So people, after thinking (and overthinking) here are a few things you better not carry on with yourselves next year…

That 26” waisted skinny jeans: Okay!! Acknowledged.. you were skinny once (please focus on once). You are not now. And I mean it in a loving and fun way babes. You now have curves which can give Beyonce a run for money. Love your curves. Curvy you is prettier you. Give those jeans away, if they did not fit you in the last 2 years probably they never will. Get over it. Hanging your hopes high will probably not solve any purpose. Declutter your wardrobe and make space for new ripped ones…

Those extra kilograms that make you catch breath: 
Before you start calling me confused because I asked you to throw away jeans and kgs all at once, let me be clear, I don’t want you to go back to that jeans yes. But I do want you to get back into that Little Black Dress. Also, I don’t like to see you catching breath, after few flights of stairs. You ran like a wind once girl… You can be skinny if you want or curvy if you want but I want you to take care of yourself. Declutter your body and make space for the new improved you.

Those “friends” who never have time for you:
 Let’s face it! You called 20 times and planned to meet 20 times last year. Somehow you are the one who keeps calling and you do not remember last time you got their call. The message is pretty clear here, right? I am surprised that a smartass like you did not get it at the very first time. Stop doing that now alright. Let them come back to you and then decide if you have spare time left from your super-tight schedule of being awesome all the time. Declutter your time and make space for some new and better friends…

Those memories of a long lost ex: If you are as smart as I hope and want you to be, you must have deleted his number from your cellphone. But what do we do to this super awesome brain which serves as a storage house for all the crap? Here I hope that sense must have prevailed by now and there are no instances of crying and whining phone calls. But in case you need to be reminded, that person is an ex for a reason. Every time you miss him (which is all the more likely this time thanks to holiday season), take a minute and think of all the times that man/woman made you feel not good enough. I mean seriously, you and not enough? You could be guilty of being too much at times I agree but never not enough. Let go of him/her who does not deserve you. Declutter your heart from ‘X’ and make space for some ‘Y’s and ‘Z’s…

That feeling of regret: You have been carrying that regret for so long now that you can also change your middle name to regret. “If only I took up that job”, “If only I did not marry that jerk” or “If only I had the courage to follow my passion”. You did not do what you should have done and what you wanted to do for so long. Fine, Guilty! But what is stopping you now? Get up and dress the part and get out and go rule the world. Again metaphorically although you can do a better job than most so-called world leaders. Declutter your soul from regret and make some space for hope.

Have a wonderful New Year people. Hope all of you find your purpose in life. Don’t forget to share your thoughts on the comments below.

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10 mistakes that single women make

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Women in today’s modern world are lucky to be living in an age where being single is not considered taboo. A single woman can go about her life happily, without having to worry too much about finding the right man. However, it is every woman’s innate desire to finally settle down with a man who will love and respect her for all that she truly is. All of us want to find love and happiness in a relationship that is both pleasing and fulfilling.
Women are often more introspective than men when it comes to relationships. They are constantly looking for ways to improve their relationships, and in turn, improve themselves. The truth, however, is that while each individual is unique, the problems they face in looking for Prince Charming or Mr. Right are universal.
Here is a definitive list of the Top 10 Mistakes that Single Women Make in their attempt to attract Prince Charming enough to make him want to stay.
1)     Revealing Too Much about Yourself: This is one of the primary problems that plague single women all over the world. We reveal too much about ourselves too soon. The moment a man opens up even a little bit, we go all out in telling him all about ourselves, our likes and dislikes, our needs and sometimes even our past. Now, it isn’t that I am advocating that you hide things from him, but do leave a little room for suspense. Every man in this world likes his woman to be a little mysterious. Men are intrigued by things they don’t know, or can’t control. So give out a little of yourself at a time. Let him discover all that you are over time. Open up to him as the relationship builds and progresses.
2)     Trying to be Perfect: In the desire to be perfect for the “one”, too many women try to change themselves to an unnatural extent. The truth is that there is no such thing as absolute perfection. You should aspire to be interesting, rather than trying to be perfect. An interesting personality will always hold a man’s attention, while a quest for perfection will only be exhausting and unrelenting.
3)     Dressing Too Revealingly: This is another common mistake that many women make. Showing too much skin is unlikely to help you find a long-lasting, meaningful relationship. Women obviously like being called sexy, and a little show of skin only adds to the appeal of a woman. However, it is a very risky game to play. One needs to strike the perfect balance. Dress too modestly and you will be labelled as old-fashioned; but dress too revealingly and you will only attract the wrong kind of attention. Although they may do it unconsciously, all men make assessments on the kind of relationship they can have with a woman based on the way she dresses. So make sure you aren’t dressing in a way that sends out the wrong kind of signals.
4)     Making Excuses about Why He Won’t Commit: The simple truth is that most men are commitment-phobic. The sooner you come to terms with this fact, the easier it will be for you to seek a partner who is actually committed to you. There is no use in lying to yourself and making excuses about something you don’t want to face up to. If a man says he that he can’t be monogamous, just take his word for it and believe him.
5)     Trying to Change a “Bad Boy”: Bad boys are actually bad. There is nothing you can really do to change them, and you shouldn’t even try to. That is not your job. Many women try to achieve a complete makeover of a man they are in a relationship with. They want to change his habits, his friends and his total outlook on life, and basically make a good husband out of a bad man. This is just not possible, and ultimately you will end up feeling like a failure. If you do not like all you have seen in a man, either get used to it, or just quit the relationship.
6)     Believing that There is No One for You: After several bad relationships and experiences, most women start thinking that maybe there is no one out there who wants to marry them. This is absolute nonsense. God has made this world in such a way that there is always someone for each and everyone. Have faith in yourself and be patient. You are amazing and only the right kind of man will truly see that in you. Don’t ever give up hope. Be confident and just wait for the right man to come along.
7)     Settling for Someone who is Not Nice to You all the Time: A woman has been called the most beautiful creature on Earth. Any man who truly respects woman will always make you feel like the special and beautiful person you are. A good man will always treat you like a princess. Do not put up with a man who doesn’t treat you a princess all the time. Don’t ever settle for anything less than the absolute dedication and admiration that you so rightfully deserve.
8)     Leaving Total Control of Yourself in His Hands: This is a mistake that most of us have made at some point of time or the other. Most of us love to have someone we can lean on and depend on. However, you should make sure that while you might lean on your man at times, you don’t become completely dependent on him. The moment you transfer total control of your life and your relationship in his hands, you are making the mistake of subjugating yourself and losing respect in the process. Remember, the more you are in control of yourself, the more likely you are to win his heart.
9)     Dating Married Men: Simply put, if you are looking for a relationship that will definitely end in marriage, it should not be with a married man. You do know that going out with a married man is adultery. No woman, including you, likes to share a man. Therefore, do not go near another woman’s husband. After all, if he can be unfaithful to his present wife, what makes you think he will not be unfaithful to you? There are many better single men out there. It’s an open market. Just keep away from married men.
10) Always Being a “Yes” Person: Every man likes a girl he can count as his equal. Agreeing with everything he says, as opposed to it as you may actually be, will only make him lose respect for you. Do not blindly agree with everything your man says or wants to do. Use your own judgement and try to figure out if you really agree with him. Learn to say “No” if you don’t agree.
The bottom line is that you are an original. No one can be a better you. This is why when you try to be something you are not, you are likely to do a bad job of it. And if you want to find the perfect man for yourself, it simply has to be a person who sees the real you and loves what he sees. So, all that is left to be said is that the world is your oyster. Go forth… and conquer!!! 
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Transcendental Meditation: Reducing & Eleminating stress

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 If Dr. Gary Kaplan, a reputed and senior neurologist currently associated with New York University School of Medicine is to be believed than for controlling mounting levels of stress that is synonymous with everyday work life, an effective meditation technique is warranted, that provides consistent results. And transcendental meditation could easily be the answer! He explains that although transcendental meditation is a mental technique, the method has prominent physiological advantages on account of the mind-body relationship it is able to establish.

Stress and Transcendental Meditation—Establishing the Correlation

Transcendental meditation techniques manage to reduce stress naturally and easily by imparting a complete sense of deep restfulness. Scientific research has gone on to prove that those practicing transcendental meditation experience a profound restfulness that is characterized by specific changes in bodily symptoms.

By achieving deep rest and reduced stress, those who regularly practice transcendental meditation manage to improve their health as well as energy levels, and ensure psychological well-being. Hence, they can successfully maintain a busy schedule at, since the negative effects associated with accumulated stress aren’t present any longer.

Some Positive Effects of TM as a Stress Reducer

Concrete research has gone on to reveal that the positive impact of transcendental meditation on stress levels can be characterized as:

  1. Swifter Recovery from Stress:Those practicing TM are seen to be recovering from stressful episodes faster than those who do not. Their bodies and minds swing into a repair mode as soon as stress affects them, rejuvenating the system within in no time.
  1. Better Anxiety Management and Reduced Insomnia:Stress and anxiety are closely related to each other. One stems from the other. Transcendental meditation controls anxiety and helps in managing insomnia. Therefore, you are able to sleep well and achieve a relaxed state of mind and body.
  1. Reduced Heart Rate: Elevated stress levels are associated with increase in heart rate. With TM techniques, heart rates can be effectively managed.
  1. Managing Depression:TM techniques help in managing depression effectively. Depressed mental states are more prone to stress. By managing depressive tendencies, TM techniques help in keeping stress in control.
  1. Lowering Blood Pressure: Often, stress levels cause temporary spikes in blood pressure which might lead to further anxiety. Transcendental meditation also helps in stabilizing blood pressure levels, restoring calmness.

 

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